On Making Changes and Starting Over

Hello and welcome back to the blog! I can’t believe it’s already the first of July and we are entering the back half of the year already. Since we’re halfway through the year, I thought this would be the perfect time to check in on my 2021 goals. Really, I haven’t made a ton of progress with most of them, especially the health-related ones (palm meet face here), but I have done a bit better with my organization and working on growing my Etsy shop. Minute progress is better than no progress. But I do want to take this post to talk a bit on making changes and starting over.

2021 Thus Far

I don’t know about most of you guys, but honestly, 2021 has felt entirely more difficult than 2020. I struggle to pinpoint exactly what I mean, but that seems to be the theme for me this year. Struggle. It’s been a struggle this year to find ANY kind of motivation, or just general desire, to make an effort. I just feel a general apathy towards nearly everything. Even things that generally bring me joy, like writing here on the blog, just aren’t connecting. I pull the blog’s dashboard up every day and just kind of scroll over it. I’ve definitely been in a funk, that’s for sure! And I’m really ready to get out of it.

I watched a great video on Youtube by Erin Sanderson about getting out of a rut and I really took some of the tips to heart. For example, she recommends finding one thing that you can change right in that moment, and then add that to your daily routine. Having a person who will help you solve a problem as a checkpoint person is another tip from the video. You don’t want some on who will commiserate with you about being stuck in a rut or funk, but someone who will acknowledge your issue and then help you work out a solution. She hasn’t uploaded a video in about a year, but she has some great content on Youtube, so I recommend checking out some of her videos. I also belong to her members-only group on Facebook and she posts some great coffee-chat style videos that get you thinking.

On Making Changes

When it comes to making changes, believe me when I say that I’ve tried pretty much every trick out there to make them stick. And guess what? Ninety percent of them don’t! Shocker. It’s easy to fall back on the bad habits or the way things were prior to the changes because exactly that point. It’s easy! Change is hard. Cliche fact? Yes, but it’s the truth.

Often, the easiest person to fool is yourself. Trust me on that fact. But honestly guys? I’m turning 37 (!!) this year. And I don’t want to turn 40 still stuck in the same place I am right now. I’m tired of feeling this malaise, this apathetic view that I have towards things. I’m tired of feeling tired, and to be blunt, like shit more often than not. I watched a video the other day (yes another one) and then saw an Instagram post more or less reiterating this exact same sentiment:

You will feel the most uncomfortable right before you do the thing you are supposed to be doing.

If you feel hesitant to do something, then you are probably on the right path. Everything isn’t supposed to come easily to you. Are some decisions easy to make? Yes. Are most of the ones that really count towards who you want to be going to be some of the most nail-bitingly difficult decisions you will ever make in your life? Absolutely! But like they say, change is hard. Life ain’t easy. But do you want to look back on your life and be happy or have regrets? I know my choice.

Starting Over

Beginnings can sometimes get a bad rap. Sometimes they’re hard (see above) and sometimes you will feel like you do nothing but start again all the time. I know I’ve walked that road many times. And I know people out there will say, “But you only get this one life!”

Exactly! You only get one life and in it are countless days to make the decision to start over. To wake up and chose today to work on embracing the true self that’s inside you. And yeah, maybe you fail by lunch, but let’s not dwell on that part of failure. Accept it, and LEARN from it. The saying don’t cry over spilled milk has many applications. You want to lose weight but you had a cupcake for a coworker or friend’s birthday? That’s fine! Life is meant to be celebrated. Don’t beat yourself up over it. That attempt at organizing your day got derailed? Let’s look at it and figure out where it got off course and find a way to manage that.

Starting over halfway through the year isn’t a sign that you gave up. You just got off course and had to re-prioritize things. And if Judgy Judy has a problem with it, that’s on her. You have better things to concern yourself with.

So that’s where I stand on making changes and starting over. Let me know in the comments or drop me a message at hello@amoretvita.com and let me know some of the changes you are hoping to make on your journey to becoming your true, authentic self.